As far back as Preschool, we were taught to treat people the same way we wanted to be treated and to be nice. But has it ever occurred that someone can be too nice ? (Without any intentions whatsoever )
Situation: A friend of mine just went through a horrible breakup and was seeking advice and comfort. The best way I knew to help my friend was simply take her on a girl's night out. I invited her to come along with my other friends to our weekend clubbing plans. As the heartbroken friend was a stranger to my friends, they invited her to their home warmly to prepare ourselves for the club. As we left the home, the owner of the house realized his $100 bill was missing from the table. We figured that he must've misplaced it somewhere around the house and promised we'll help search for it the next day. As the night went on in the club, I noticed my heartbroken friend ordered a drink and payed with a crunched up 100$ bill she pulled out from her bra. As of that moment my friend and I realized she took it. The night went on with tension as no one said anything about the money mainly beause we didn't want to cause a scene inside the club. The following day, before my friend can go confront the theif, I simply paid my friend $100 and asked him to please forget about the whole situation.
- I felt it was my responsibility to pay that $100 because i brought the stranger/theif to the house (and most likely she will deny that she took it -
I personally value the "treat others the way you wanted to be treated" rule. So i live my daily life with an optimistic smile and open arms to anyone in need. But lately, Instead of receiving a simple "Thank you" ...i've been getting the "you're too nice" comments. In a way it is a positive feedback, but why does it taste so bitter? Simply I asked my friend to enlighten me and he clearly said.. i am a total doormat for people. But in my perspective, I just wanted to do what I can to help make life easier for everyone(including myself); plus it is completely out of character for me to refuse to help when I can. So where does the fine line draw from being a doormat to just being nice?
As I was going through my routine of a breakup (ice-cream, movies, and sweat-pants) I felt especially sad that one night. As I was chatting with a friend on msn, I told him the situation of how much i dearly missed the ex. (even though its been 5 months) After a period of time, he started telling me how his great(s) grandmother was Buddha's Sister. And my friend especially have this .. "unique power" of finding out if a relationship can last or not. and what the other partner is thinking... So i asked him please help me do a reading. As he knelt down and started to pray, i waited for his answer.. And what i found so unique about his answers was that it was extremely relevant to the answers i recieved from the ex-boyfriend 5 months ago. My friend was able to predict the details of what previously happend. *And i never informed him about what happend between the ex and I.* My friend was also able to tell me what went wrong within the relationship and how the ex has "someone" telling him updates within my life. Which was amazingly suprising because there was no connections between My friend and My ex. And there was no possible way that the two of them could've spoken with each other. 
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